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About the book

What makes us a couple? How many ingredients does this recipe have? Can crises become opportunities? Why do they call it love when they mean falling in love? What is mythical about romantic love? How many fit in the bed? Is talking the only solution? Can you live without sex?

Laura Morán, psychologist and expert in sexology, one of the most prominent disseminators in our country in the field of couple relationships.

«Of course you can live without sex, but why would you want to give up something that is not only free but beneficial and healthy? Whether sex is essential or not in a couple is the million dollar question. The answer is it depends. It depends on many things, such as what sex represents for the members of the couple and what it has meant in the history of the relationship. What I can tell you is that sex, not penetration, is important for everything it implies: complicity, communication, generosity, fun, pleasure… Are we sure we want to miss it?

We hold so many false beliefs about love, sex and relationships that it is difficult to live them in a healthy, functional and satisfactory way. In this book I will dismantle some myths that hinder our happiness and I will show you what can be done to relate better. My intention is to show you that couples are perfectly imperfect and that, in addition to love, what they need to be comfortable is to develop trust, be able to communicate effectively and enjoy emotional and sexual intimacy that is satisfactory for both.

Although we have been told (and we have believed) that love is eternal and that, like the protagonists of the stories, “we will live happily and eat partridges”, the truth is that relationships are like all human bonds: ties that It is necessary to take care and not mythologize. The invention of romantic love and the intense emotions we feel when we fall in love generate unrealistic expectations in us that make it difficult for us to live our relationships in a healthy and satisfactory way.

As a psychologist, family and couples therapist and sexologist, Laura Morán has worked with many couples who have confided in her their worries, conflicts and disagreements to see if they were resolvable or not. Beyond theory, this has allowed him to learn different ways of relating, loving each other, getting angry, forgiving, distancing and getting back together or breaking up.

Through examples that the author works on in her practice, the book provides simple and effective tools to work on trust, communication and sexual intimacy; essential ingredients to feel comfortable in our relationships.

«That is why I can affirm that each couple is happy in their own way, although they all tend to stumble over the same stones when they are in crisis. You will see that everything is eternal until it is over and that some therapeutic processes have a happy ending and others a happy ending; However, in both cases, it is usually that way because it could not be any other way.

As the author points out in the declaration of intentions that heads the book, too many myths have been invented about relationships, such as, for example, that we should be happy forever, that if it is the right person, the passion will be eternal or that we have to talk. to the point of satiety to always agree. However, this is not always the case nor does it have to be.

We hold so many false beliefs about love, sex and relationships that it is difficult to live them in a healthy, functional and satisfactory way. Perfectly imperfect It invites us to reflect on what we understand by being a couple and talks about the emotions that usually interweave it. Some myths that hinder our happiness so much are also dismantled.