About the book
The new gurus of the self-help industry repeatedly repeat phrases to us like “Be the best version of yourself,” “Achieve your goals and you will be happy.” They make the value of individuals depend on their productivity and achievements, dehumanizing them. Thus, we sell ourselves through social networks as if we were a product and we demand more and more of ourselves, in a desire for insatiable perfectionism that generates anxiety, depression, stress and frustrations. We must reclaim our humanity and our personal values. Start being ourselves and feel satisfied with who we really are to treat ourselves with decency and respect. Let’s learn to accept ourselves unconditionally and let others, if they want, continue screwing up their lives trying to improve their version of themselves, before an internal judge that is impossible to satisfy.
MENTAL HEALTH AND EMOTIONAL DISCOMFORT: TRADITIONALLY INVISIBLE TO SOCIETY
The problem with mental health and emotional distress is that it is not seen. They are wounds that hurt like hell, but diffuse; They are there, but they are not there, we know that they hurt us, but not being able to see them, we do not really understand what the hell is happening to us and if it is real or if it is a paranoia that we are creating… That makes us feel ashamed or strange, that we are not doing it good. Because everyone understands that you can’t or don’t feel like it when you have a fever, but not when you have anxiety, sadness or, what is becoming more and more common, that sometimes life tires you and it doesn’t seem like it makes much sense. That makes us all carry the procession inside, in guilty silence for not knowing very well what to tell and because all God seems to be fine with their lives.
THE REAL PANDEMIC: CHRONIC DISSATISFACTION
The real plague of our times is that we can never seem to be satisfied and at peace with ourselves. We are a dehumanized culture, in which it seems that everything has to be beautiful, instagrammable, ideal. Comparing ourselves with that, it is normal that we are not clear if we are really enough, and the fact is that, today, how much you know, have, or how attractive you are, is equal to how much you are worth, that is the fate of our time, the value of human being reduced to its productivity, just as if it were cattle. Therefore, it is not surprising that we have forgotten about acceptance, enjoying the little things, caring for and dedicating time to our loved ones, giving up our lives trying to achieve an endless list of objectives and purposes; treating ourselves terribly through self-criticism and judgment to try to achieve it
We beg for “likes,” and for that we look for self-help courses that teach us how to be “our best version.” We spend our fucking lives trying, without caring that in doing so we end up exhausted, anxious or empty, but, above all, ignoring and repressing the part of us that suffers. Enough of “getting out of the comfort zone”, let’s start to be comfortable, to rest and give ourselves permission to be what we really are, because we are not perfect, but we don’t fucking need it.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THIS BOOK
This is not a book against wanting to advance in life, effort or achieving goals, something that has nothing wrong in itself; This is a book that seeks to make you rethink where you do things and what kind of relationship you build with yourself, since we tend to be our cruelest judges and executioners. «Apart from trying to make you reconsider some things, I am not going to offer you much more, since I believe that psychology, like philosophy, should not give us a marked path, the same for everyone, to follow, but rather disconcert us so that we are the ones. that we ask ourselves our own questions, and in this way, be able to find our own answers that become the path to follow for each one of us.
Faced with the reduction of little techniques, promoting psychological tricks to deceive ourselves or a list of habits to practice (which become a new obligation on our list of things to do and for which we beat ourselves up by not complying) I will help you rethink where comes the vision you have of yourself, what it is difficult for you to accept and what happiness or self-love consists of, as well as questioning what really gives you value as a human being, how to treat yourself and what is really important to you in life. so that you can make decisions from honesty with yourself.
I am going to try to offer my experience, not so much so that it “is a story of overcoming”, but as an example to illustrate some things and, above all, that it is a mirror where you can see yourself reflected without feeling judged and that we normalize the discomfort that we all suffer and that we carry inside behind a mask of security and optimism with a stupid smile drawn on our face while inside we are scared or crying, because we don’t know if we are really good enough.
A book full of a psychology different from the usual one, more human and raw, without good things, but also without demands… (and full of swear words)
Source: https://algunoslibrosbuenos.com/te-estas-jodiendo-la-vida
